Drained and frustrated? Feel your confidence and ambition evaporating? Graduate Fog knows all about losing your job-hunting mojo. Luckily, we also know how to get it back.
Graduate Fog knows that the hardest part of job hunting has nothing to do with perfecting your CV or preparing for interviews. It’s finding the will to keep going on the days when it all feels hopeless. We know how scary it feels when your self-esteem vanishes – and how quickly that happens when you’re out of work.
Your internal, psychological battle is the biggest challenge for a job-seeker. The good news is that it only takes one person to fix. And that’s you.
Graduate Fog knows what lurks in the murkiest corners of a job-seeker’s mind during those dark days between uni and your first job. Here, we address your four most common confessions — and give you the soothing comfort / kick up the backside you need. You can thank us for it later.
“I can’t get out of bed in the mornings”
Job hunting at home alone all week? Or trying to muster the energy to do it at weekends, while you temp Monday to Friday? Then you’ll know how strong the call of the duvet can be. The problem is that you’ve turned your job hunt into a chore to be avoided. Re-frame it as the pathway out of your current slump. It’s easier to get up and do a task you want to do than one you don’t want to do.
DO write a motivation checklist. Use it to remind yourself that ultimately you’re doing this job hunt for you — nobody else.
DO set three alarms, including one outside your room, so you have to get out of bed to stop it ringing.
DON’T go it alone. Recruit reinforcements — ask your folks to turf you out of bed before they leave for work.
DO treat yourself to nice shower products or delicious food for your breakfast, to help lure you from your pit.
“I take days to recover from rejection”
Being knocked back can feel horribly personal but it’s important to remember that there are loads of reasons why it might have happened — and it’s pretty unlikely that it’s just because you’re a huge loser. Perhaps they spotted your potential but need someone who can hit the ground running? Perhaps they sensed you wanted a job, but not particularly this job? (Were they right?)
DON’T scold yourself for making an emotional connection with a job before you got it. You needed to feel something in order to give it your best shot.
DO feel disappointed. Suppressing your emotions or kidding yourself you didn’t really want the job is counter-productive. Acknowledging you feelings will help you to move on faster.
DO remind yourself of famous failures. James Joyce’s first book was rejected by 22 publishers, Lisa Kudrow failed her first audition for an improvisational theatre group — and Tom Jones’ first single bombed.
DO ask for feedback. The truth often takes the sting out of rejection. Plus, they’ll probably say something nice about your application, which will help your self-esteem.